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After a Miscarriage

Gentle support for mums and families after pregnancy loss.

1. You are not alone

Miscarriage is common, but that does not make it any less painful or significant.
There is no 'right' way to feel — grief, shock, anger, numbness, and relief can all be normal.
You do not have to go through this alone; support is available and you deserve care.

2. What to expect physically

Bleeding and cramping can vary from light spotting to heavy and painful — rest when you need to.
Your doctor may advise expectant management, medication, or a procedure depending on your situation.
After a loss, your next period may arrive in 4–6 weeks, but cycles can take time to settle.

3. Looking after yourself

Rest, drink plenty of fluids, and accept help with meals, childcare, or household tasks.
It is okay to say no to visitors and to protect your space while you grieve.
Speak to your GP if bleeding is very heavy, pain is severe, or you feel unwell.

4. Support for partners and family

Partners may grieve differently — try to share feelings without judgment.
Children can be told simply and honestly that the baby was not able to keep growing.
Reach out to trusted friends, family, or a counsellor who can listen without rushing you.

5. Helpful resources

Your GP, midwife, or early pregnancy unit can offer medical advice and local support.
Charities such as Tommy's, The Miscarriage Association, and Sands provide helplines and forums.
If you feel overwhelmed, anxious, or unable to cope, please seek professional mental health support.

When in doubt, ask a professional

This guide is for general information only. If you're worried about your baby's health or feeding, speak with your GP, health visitor, or paediatrician.